It has been said that the reasons Proverbs 31:10-31 was written, no doubt, was to help guide men in finding the right kind of wife. Some see Proverbs 31:10-31 as a continuation of what King Lemuel’s mother taught him, concluding with this description of an ideal wife for her royal son.
The RARE Lady is far more valuable and worth far more than rubies. She is like a rare gem. Precious stones are precious and costly because they are so rare. The virtuous woman is a beautiful woman, not necessarily outwardly, but certainly inwardly. She is not only a rare gem but a beautiful gem. She is more valuable than a rare gem. She has an inner beauty and strength of character and a moral firmness.
One of her greatest assets is she was made a leader by God. Unfortunately, women have been restricted from exercising their gifts because some of Paul’s sayings have been applied to the church as universal instructions.
However, women took an active role in the religious life, certainly in the home but also in the community. Miriam, Moses’ sister, was more than a prophetess, she was a co-leader along with Moses and Aaron [Micah 6:4].
Paul described Phoebe as a “servant of the church” [Rom. 16:1]. The Greek word is diakono” (diakonos), the same as the masculine, which is usually translated “deacon.” It is clear that Paul allowed and encouraged women in all aspects of ministry including leadership roles.
It has been said that man’s greatest desires is to trust his wife enough to reveal his fallacies without retribution. However, there are many men today that cannot say that they trust their wives. Being able to fully trust your wife is one of the fundamental foundations of a strong God-honoring marriage. Martin Luther said of his wife, “The greatest gift of God is a pious amiable spouse, who fears God, loves his house, and with whom one can live in perfect confidence.”
There are at least two reasons why the heart of a husband can trust his virtuous wife. The first reason is so that he shall have no need of spoil, and second is she shall do him good and not evil. “No need” means not to be lacking. He shall have no need of gain because his wife is a tremendous benefit to the family, even financially. In other words, she is not a financial liability. She manages the home so well, and she is so industrious and productive, that her efforts result in great gain and even profit.
Her husband can safely trust in her because he does not need to worry about her being a financial liability and because he knows that she will do him only good, and not evil. The verb “will do” is of interest. It is not the common Hebrew verb for “do.” It means to deal out, to deal fully, or to deal bountifully. In 1 Samuel 24:17 David had just spared Saul’s life, even though he easily could have killed his persecutor. Saul’s response: “Thou art more righteous than I; for thou hast rewarded me good whereas I have rewarded thee evil.” Saul deserved evil, but David dealt with him in a good way. Put another way, Saul dished out evil to David, but David dished out good to Saul- who actually deserved evil.
The virtuous woman deals out to her husband that which is good. She dishes out to him, or serves him, that which is good and not evil. She wants only God’s highest and best for him. Her life and her deeds are a constant benefit and blessing to her husband.
In doing good to her husband, she is consistent. She doesn’t serve him that which is good one day, and that which is evil the next day. Her husband can count on her to do him good and to be a blessing to him. He can count on her to do this today, five days from now, one year from now, ten years from now, and all the days of her life. She is not up and down, hot and cold. Her godliness is marked with consistency. This is a “RARE Lady!”